by Deepak Chopra
“Be more concerned about your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are”- John Wooden.
Values are something that you hold very dear. They are the beliefs that drive your decisions and shape your destiny. All battles from the classroom to the boardroom are fought on the basis of val-ues. Those who know their values and live by them become leaders of their society. A lot of importance is attached to values e.g. we all value love, success, freedom, intimacy, security, adven-ture, power, passion, comfort and health. Each of us can have these values in a different hierarchy of importance and that will govern the personali-ty in that manner.
Values provide perspective in the best and worst of times. Whenever we are faced with a tough situation where we fail to be decisive, it is primarily because of lack of clarity of our values demanded by that situation.
It is our values of life that help us stand stead-fast before any adversity and wade through it. The same holds true for every nation and organi-sation. Change in leadership changes the image, culture, sentiments and overall prosperity of the individuals that make up any nation or a compa-ny. We should stick to our standards and ideals, be it rain or sunshine. The sense of pride that you get by holding on to your values gives you much more contentment and peace of mind, than com-promising them to achieve the desired results. Our values serve as a compass by guiding us to our ultimate destination. We are able to have consistency of action due to our values. “We are what we repeatedly do”- Aristotle.
Living by our values gives us immense strength of character, keeps our head above our shoulders and commands respect. “Values are like finger-prints. Nobody’s are the same, but you leave them all over everything you do”- Elvis Presly.
Just imagine someone with a fluctuating set of values. Would you like to associate with such a weather cock which changes direction as per the wind? He is like a yoyo. You never know which direction he is headed in and when. Such people are termed as spineless or opportunists.
Our experiences are driven by the values we nurture. Just violate any law or traffic rule or a law of Nature, and see where you end up. We all attract and develop close associations with peo-ple who nurture similar set of values.
Whenever there is a conflict between two indi-viduals, it will always be traced down to be a clash of their value systems. We observe it in fam-ilies, business partnerships, board of directors, governments and even nations. Wars are fought amongst nations. Social upheavals take place. Civil wars break out. Nations are divided. The entire human race is fractured on basis of value systems. Emergence of religions of the world, too, are a consequence of disparity in value system.
Thus we see that values have had such far reaching consequences. Imagine what impact a positive and an elevated set of values, beliefs or ideals will have on your success and destiny. We all idolize and respect a person whose philoso-phies and actions are one. History is replete with people of such integrity. Life is a way of testing our commitment to our values. Nurture values that elevate your life’s experiences.
“Even as a coin attains its full value when it is spent, so life attains its supreme value when one knows how to forfeit it with grace when the time comes”.
Chandigarh based Deepak Chopra is Author of the books: The Secrets of Success and Mantras for Inner Peace
A must-read book : Guruji – 21 Shades of Divinity: A narrative of the author’s expe-riences in his solitude during the lock-down – of his encounters with different shades of Divinity emerging from his experiences, observations and emotions in his solitude.
It encapsulates the purity of his devo-tion. It will inspire all to come back to it – to rekindle the flame of love and passion for life, to go a notch deeper into spiritu-ality – with Guruji.